Assuage

I'm trying to assuage my fears by trying to be inspired by random things.

Yasmeen Mogaheed wrote that fear comes from attachment our to earthly or temporary things.

We are afraid to lose someone for fear of being alone.
We are afraid to lose our job for fear of being broke.
We are afraid to die because of our attachment to the world, or dunnia one might call it.

Well, I have a lot to fear and a lot of fears myself.
I am afraid of losing my loved ones.
My mom, my dad, my siblings, my boyfriend, my pets and my friends.
I am afraid of not being accepted.
I am afraid cockroaches and also public speaking.
And i think the list goes on and on.

Currently I am afraid of not looking good. I know it is stupid but it really does mess with your self esteem. i find myself hiding and shying away. And it is eating up my confidence.

I need to assuage these fears.
One way to deal with it is i try to remind myself that this storm shall pass.
And the fact that dancing in the rain is fun than just waiting for it to pass.
Random acts like giving the gift of smile and trying to say something good to people in spite the fact that they dissed you is actually therapeutic.

Accepting the fact that expectations is not always a good thing helps too. Life is not like what we perceive it to be most of the time. Its not a romantic comedy or a tragedy. it is decided. We just have to deal with it.
And i think, being with positive energy helps. Positive people resonates optimism within us. Hang with them and you might just be resonating the same energy. Ditch bad omens (bad people, they do you know good).

For a hard core pessimist like me, being optimistic is a journey rather than a destination. But believe me, I am trying hard to be one.

You just gotta look for the silver linings in the clouds.